1. How does your spouse react when you share your accomplishments or receive praise from others? Covert narcissists often struggle with others’ success.

2. When you express emotional needs or vulnerability to your spouse, how does the covert narcissist in your relationship typically respond?

3. During disagreements, how does your spouse handle criticism or feedback about their behavior? Covert narcissists have distinctive responses to perceived criticism.

4. How does your spouse interact with your friends and family? Covert narcissists often display characteristic behaviors in social situations.

5. When making important decisions in your marriage, how does your spouse who might have covert narcissist tendencies typically behave?

6. How does your spouse respond when you need personal space or pursue independent interests? Covert narcissists have specific reactions to perceived independence.

7. When you’re going through a difficult time, how does your spouse with possible covert narcissist traits handle your distress?

8. How often does your spouse engage in conversations about past situations where they believe they were mistreated? Covert narcissists frequently display a victim mentality.

9. When your spouse makes mistakes or hurts your feelings, how do they respond? Covert narcissists have distinctive patterns in handling accountability.

10. Looking at the overall emotional impact of your relationship, how does being with your potentially covert narcissist spouse affect your self-perception and mental wellbeing?