“No matter the players, gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse.”

“If you are suffering the gaslight effect, you are no longer sure of your reality, you are questioning your sense of self and you have given over your power in order to preserve the relationship.”

“The ‘powerful’ gaslighter communicates with certainty and consistency that he is right and there is something wrong with you or the way you think.”

“The systematic knocking you down over time, will eat away at your confidence and cause you to experience a growing shakiness of self.”

“Gradually, you begin to question what you thought you knew to be true. You are second guessing your reality.”

“Undermining a partner’s emotions and feelings is a way to deny their reality.”

“It’s important to separate gaslighting from genuine disagreement.”

“You often feel confused and even crazy in the relationship.”

“You’re always apologizing.”

“You start lying to avoid put-downs and reality twists.”

“That never happened.”

“You’re imagining things.”

“You’re overreacting.”

“You’re so sensitive!”

“Holding on to your reality is essential.”

“Someone can try to gaslight you and once you can identify what’s going on, you can begin to turn off the gaslighting and heal.”

“Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from.”

“Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse?”

“Do you have trouble making simple decisions and constantly second guess yourself?”

“Trust your gut, if something feels wrong, it is wrong for you!”

“When your body tells you something is wrong, something is wrong.”

“Keep score of what emotions you choose to honor and what you tend to dismiss.”

“Rally your relationships.”

“gaslighting as you all know is denying someone’s reality then telling that person that there’s something wrong with them and to keep doing this repeatedly until the gaslighted person is so broken down that they just go along”

“gaslighting is a process of psychological abuse and manipulation which entails denying the reality or another person’s experience beliefs or perceptions and then subsequently undercutting their mental capabilities”

“gaslighting is not a one-off it’s a systematic process it’s a grooming process.”

“first it is manipulation doubt yourself only believe me”

“number two it’s emotional abuse because they’re playing with a person’s mind and with a person’s reality.”

“number three it’s meant to leave you feeling impaired and mentally unwell”

“number four it’s a tool with which to control you”

“number five it’s the minimizing and pathologizing of your emotion oh you’re too sensitive you need some help.”

“gaslighting however is a deliberate attempt to control and manipulate somebody else”

“it’s a deliberate attempt to make the other person feel like they are losing their mind that they are misperceiving the accuracy of a situation”

“With a narcissist, their behaviors across the board will always be about power and control.”

“slowly and systematically kind of erode your self-esteem one layer at a time”

“you have… been gaslit. So you don’t even trust your own perception of things.”

“once you see the blueprint of a narcissist’s behavior, you absolutely… cannot unsee it.”

“These individuals make it their task to create confusion and doubt in you so that they can Elevate themselves at your expense.”

“The Narcissist has already decided my denial overrides your intelligence.”

“your perceptions are going to be summarily dismissed.”

“I’d rather discredit you… over learning how to adjust.”

“The narcissist’s ultimate goal is to perpetuate their own alternate reality.”

“Narcissists want to Gaslight you… actually covering their own confusion.”

“I WAS JUST TRYING TO HELP”

“WHO TOLD YOU THAT?”

“I’M SORRY IF I OFFENDED YOU”

“NOBODY DOES MORE FOR YOU THAN ME”

“YOU’RE THE ONE WHO HAS THE ISSUES”

“YOU ARE SO ARGUMENTATIVE”

“Gaslighting refers to a specific tactic of making someone doubt their own reality.”

“Elements of gaslighting can be involved in each of the DARVO steps: deny, attack, and reverse victim & offender.”

“Narcissistic gaslighting occurs when people with narcissistic personality disorder refuse to admit that they are wrong or have done something bad to their mate.”

“Even when they are caught in the act, they will often try to convince the other person that he or she is paranoid and is imagining the whole thing.”

“one member of a couple tries to manipulate the other person to accept things as true that are patently false.”

“Do they try to persuade you to doubt the evidence of your senses and what you are thinking and feeling?”

“Do they try to convince you that what you believe is wrong, and what they believe is right?”

“Do they react badly if you do not accept their version of the truth?”

“Are they extremely persistent and sometimes keep the argument going long after you have asked them to please drop the issue?”

“Do they attempt to bully you into admitting that they are 100 percent right, and you are completely wrong?”

“Are the facts always twisted so that they are the victim, and you are always at fault?”

“they make such long and complicated arguments… that, after a while, you become thoroughly confused”

“Perhaps the most common and strident trait of gaslighting is the invention of a false narrative by the gaslighter”

“gaslighting falsehoods are repeated constantly in order to overwhelm the relationship”

“some victims may suffer gaslightee fatigue… they freeze psychologically and tolerate abuse with numbness and resignation.”

“many gaslighters can become highly aggressive and hostile when called on their falsehoods and lies.”

“Some gaslighters artificially manufacture a siege mentality, and strategically isolate the gaslightee(s) from certain people, resource, information, support, and rights.”

“Gaslighters cast themselves as savior, hero, superior… the only one with the power and solution”

“some gaslighters will occasionally dangle false hope… promising to reduce the harsh treatment”

“For pathological gaslighters, the ultimate purpose of gaslighting is about power and control.”

“Gaslighting is mind control to make victims doubt their reality.”

“Playing the victim role: Manipulator portrays him- or herself as a victim… to gain pity, sympathy or evoke compassion”

“If you’re dealing with a person who rarely gives you a straight answer… you can assume you’re dealing with a person who… is covertly aggressive.”

“Manipulators know that if they’re above-board in their aggression, they’ll encounter resistance… they’re adept at fighting unscrupulously yet surreptitiously.”

“ACCEPT NO EXCUSES… If someone’s behavior is wrong or harmful, the rationale they offer is totally irrelevant.”

“JUDGE ACTIONS, NOT INTENTIONS.”

“we’re more apt to doubt and blame ourselves for daring to believe what our gut tells us about our manipulator’s character.”

“The ‘losing battle’ manipulation victims often fight is trying to make the manipulator change.”

“Aggressive characters don’t just disregard the truth, they’re at war with it.”

“Manipulation tactics and gaslighting go hand in hand.”

“Victims of chronic gaslighting don’t just question their perceptions and judgment. They start to question their very sanity.”

“Conspiracy gaslighting… happens when a covert abuser persuades others to participate in your demonization.”

“They successfully paint themselves as the good guy and you as the crazy one.”

“IN ONE IMPORTANT WAY, an abusive man works like a magician: His tricks largely rely on getting you to look off in the wrong direction”

“Her grievances constantly turned around on her, so that everything is her own fault.”

“One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don’t seem like abusers.”

“As a child, I was experiencing a world where there was no emotional safety… I was told that what I saw with my own eyes hadn’t happened.”

“The erasure of the abuse was worse than the abuse.”

“when you’ve been on the receiving end of gaslighting, a compulsion for accuracy can be a survival mechanism.”

“I didn’t change my story because my story was real: On surviving a childhood of gaslighting”

“She most often hears that she’s ‘too sensitive’… I hope… women see that these kinds of statements are, themselves, verbally abusive.”

“Verbal abusers almost universally act like nothing happened… Maybe they got you to… doubt yourself.”

“He always finds a way to make me the problem.”

“Abusers get worse over time and always blame the victim.”

“Months or years of being emotionally abused can cause you to distrust your perceptions and even your sanity,”

“Emotional abuse may include… gaslighting… in order to gain and maintain power and control in the relationship.”

“Their apologies are always conditional… ‘I’m sorry you feel that way’… is just manipulating you.”

“Gaslighters love to pit people against each other. This is known as splitting.”

“Gaslighters are the ultimate agitators and instigators.”

“This is the gaslighters’ mantra… people with a personality disorder feel that they are normal and everyone else is crazy.”

“Agreement isn’t the endpoint of successful gaslighting… Gaslighters aim to fundamentally undermine their targets as deliberators and moral agents.”

“charging someone not simply with being wrong or mistaken, but being in no condition to judge whether she is wrong or mistaken.”

“Gaslighting essentially turns its targets against themselves… by harnessing the very same capacities… to love, to trust, to empathize”

“Be precise about ‘gaslighting’… Delineate it as distinctly as possible.”

“Gaslighting is ‘a multidimensional moral horror show’ with numerous facets and nuances”

“The gaslighter is ‘both trying to make her target think that she’s crazy and actually trying to drive her crazy.'”

“Gaslighting often involves intimate relationships—spouses are the blueprint… ‘it’s depressingly common among abusive parents as well.'”

“Gaslighting ‘is a fiendishly brilliant tool for reinforcing racism, sexism and other forms of systematic subjugation,'”

“It’s either reality manipulation, scapegoating, coercion, or straight-up lying. Those are probably four of the main gaslighting tactics.”

“I find myself often saying I feel something and then I’m being blamed for the very thing that I just uttered. The blame is constantly shifting.”

“I’m doing these things and I’m saying these mean things because I actually am trying to help you.”

“When I’m mean, I was just joking,”

“You’re too emotional.”

“Throughout the course of my work, I’ve noticed a common theme: the societal invalidation and gaslighting of survivors.”

“This form of secondary gaslighting and invalidation is incredibly painful…”

“This also contributes to a global Gaslighting Effect…”

“To interrupt the process of rumination in a way that is judgmental and invalidating is especially harmful to a survivor”

“Gaslighting is an insidious form of manipulation and psychological control. Victims… are deliberately and systematically fed false information that leads them to question what they know to be true”

“gaslight: vb. to manipulate another person into doubting their perceptions, experiences, or understanding of events.”

“You often feel confused.”

“You have trouble making the simplest of decisions.”