“Love bombing, unlike real love, is a self-centered, anxious pursuit, with the singular goal of acquiring someone because it boosts the bomber’s ego.”

“It’s not about care or compassion or tenderness. For the love bomber, you’re no different than a shiny new toy that captures their attention for the moment.”

“One of my clients aptly described the intensity of this experience: it’s like having the sun shine on you, and only you, for days, weeks, maybe even months.”

“It’s too good to be true because it’s all an illusion. Love bombers can’t love you because they don’t even know who you are yet.”

“There’s a desperate insistence to love bombing, like you’re not playfully being put on a pedestal—you’re being glued to it.”

“Love bombers use grand gestures to manipulate. They fake a genuine interest in another person to get something they want, usually some combination of sex, money, attention, a live-in housekeeper and access to important people.”

“It’s a classic bait-and-switch. They seem to be doing all the giving until you realize you’re doing all the giving and they have used you for your body, your wallet, your home, your caretaking ability and your empathy.”

“A person who is trying to force a relationship into place at lightning speed is not healthy. A toxic individual is out for a quick gratification and is incapable of handling the ups and downs that come with a long-term relationship.”

“A new relationship that begins to resemble a romantic movie or romance novel is cause for alarm.”

“We know from research on online dating that prolonged interaction over text and email can build expectations… Mix all those things together and the intensity builds quickly. A false sense of intimacy emerges in no time.”

“Most importantly… move quickly to meeting in person before expectations build or a love bomber blasts you off your feet.”

“Love bombing via dating apps is used to coerce persons of interest into having premature romantic feelings and a false sense of trust in the love bomber, someone they barely even know.”

“Love bombers these days have a greater number of possible connections in the online world—a host of potential prey. Plus, there’s a lack of visibility and accountability for online love bombers.”

“My rule of thumb is, if they are complimenting before they have a real interaction with you, be wary… If the compliments are over the top… run, don’t walk, in the other direction.”

“If the person is sending you daily ‘good morning, cutie’ texts, that’s a big red flag… You start falling for the idea of someone instead of the reality of them.”

“Most often, love bombing is done by a narcissist with the intent of drawing in and gaining control over the person who is being love bombed.”

“It’s often used to win over your trust and affection so that they can meet a goal of theirs.”

“The thing to keep in mind… is that real relationships take time to develop. It’s very unlikely the person really can love you more than anything in the world in 2 weeks. Or two days. Or 2 hours. Or even 2 months.”

“Love bombers also get upset about any boundaries with regard to access to you or you accepting their displays of love. It’s like a tsunami of affection and they expect you to accept it all.”

“True love does not want all your time and energy focused on them alone… They respect other commitments, ideas, and boundaries.”

“If what they say sounds right out of a film, take heed… Hollywood is great for entertainment, but true love and relationships don’t look like the movies.”

“Pay attention to these anxious feelings… be attuned to your intuition, so you can be informed instead of being carried away by love bombing tactics.”

“It feels great when a new potential love interest starts sexting you or bombards you with texts, calls, and flowers.”

“In a loving partnership, one is allowed to have discussions about changing their mind, ask for time, and confide in their partner their fears and concerns.”

“The antidote to being love-bombed in the future is to know your own self-worth, to love yourself, to keep one eye open… and try not to be so blinded that you don’t learn enough about your partner.”

“Love bombing occurs when someone expresses excessive praise and affection at a rate that is disproportionate to the current stage of a relationship in an attempt to manipulate the person they’re dating into committing to them quickly.”

“Future faking… can create a false sense of security since you haven’t yet seen if the person’s words align with their actions.”

“The expectation of being in frequent contact… isolates you so that if others express concern about your relationship, it will be more difficult for you to end it because you are already deeply invested in it.”

“Once the switch is flipped, they begin to criticize… aiming to erode their self-esteem over time so that they are fully in control.”

“The discard typically feels cold and detached and is done without remorse or care for the other person.”

“Love bombing is a psychological manipulation tactic where someone showers you with excessive affection, praise, and attention to gain influence and control.”

“It mimics genuine love, but it bypasses consent and erodes boundaries and the sense of self.”

“The gifts come with strings. The praise turns into criticism. And the affection becomes a weapon, used only when you’re accommodating, submissive, compliant.”

“This cycle, highs followed by distance or criticism, mirrors trauma bonding… Many victims report feeling addicted to the relationship.”

“Real love is not a performance, a persuasion tactic, or a race.”

“Love bombing is abuse. The important thing to remember about love bombing is that it is psychological partner abuse, period.”

“When one person intentionally manipulates and exploits another’s weakness or insecurity, there’s no other word for it. Love is not about controlling who you see or what you do.”

“Love bombing is when someone showers you with attention, promising the world, but when you respond they go cold and stop responding.”

“Narcissists love bomb to control.”

“Love bombing is the deception that hides what is to come. It hides the sleight-of-hand that takes place when the poison is slowly injected into us—one sweet drop at a time.”

“For this reason, it seems clear that narcissist love bombing is just as abusive as more apparent forms of exploitation in the narcissistic cycle of abuse.”

“Narcissists lure. They lure with promises, flattery, lies and sweet words.”

“With the love-bombing they pour on us at the beginning of the relationship, narcissists draw a fat, white circle of protection around themselves.”

“Love-bombing—the excessive praise and flattery the predator showers on the prey—might as well be crack cocaine.”

“It is a common manipulation used by cults to control their members—and in a relationship with a narcissist, you become a one-man cult.”

“The target is groomed to become addicted to the narcissist’s loving words and caring actions—not knowing they are hollow.”

“Love bombing is a double bind.”

“Love bombing makes it that much tougher for anyone—even the most rational person—to detach themselves completely from toxic people.”

“If their ego is harmed or sense of entitlement rattled, they begin to devalue the very partners they once love bombed heavily—without much empathy or remorse.”

“It’s almost like the narcissist or psychopath no longer ‘sees’ them or they cease to exist.”

“Unlike true love, love bombing is insincere. It is not an expression of your new partner’s deepest feelings; it is a strategy to achieve an objective.”

“Sociopaths move fast, and quickly begin talking about love, commitment and marriage. This is called love bombing.”

“The sociopath’s extraordinary pursuit is never about love. It is about predation.”

“Despite what the sociopath says, his or her interest in you is not about building a relationship or future together. It’s about acquiring a possession.”

“Love bombing is all about control. When someone tries to fast-forward intimacy, they’re often trying to bypass your defenses.”

“Love Bombing is probably the most common tactic narcissists use to reel you in.”

“Narcissists like to love bomb! They like to shower you with gifts, turn on the charm and move things on very quickly.”

“That, in a nutshell, is a classic narcissistic love bomb… find out what a person craves and pretend to be it.”

“If they’ve decided that you are a good target for narcissistic supply, they will start trying to find out where your ON button is from their very first conversation with you.”

“Number 1 – Being Susceptible To Charm And Love Bombing.”

“Love bombing is a psychological and emotional abuse tactic used by an offender to gain and maintain control of someone and to suck them into a relationship.”

“Love bombing refers to the experience of someone showering another person with excessive flattery and affection… attempting to manipulate the person they’re dating into committing to them quickly.”

“Love bombing… is used to coerce persons of interest into having premature romantic feelings and a false sense of trust.”

“With any luck, your slow-and-steady approach to dating and your eye rolls over any talk of ‘our future together’ will scare off any potential love bombers that come your way.”

“Most narcissists will love-bomb at the beginning of a relationship… The shock and sadness that comes with the realization that this isn’t a true reflection of that person can be earth shattering.”

“Narcissists are notorious for love bombing, which means that they pour a huge amount of love out on you to get you to do what they want you to do.”

“Future faking is how the love-bombing narcissist sucks you in.”

“Love bombing is done to keep your attention focused on them… while beginning the process of disconnecting you from your friends, family, or other support systems.”

“Right now you are bright and shiny because they are love-bombing you… but make no mistake. You will fall from grace.”

“Abusers are notorious for rushing the first stage of intimacy… survivors commonly recall being swept off their feet.”

“Any confidence you felt during the previous days or weeks of love-bombing is gone instantaneously as if you’d never felt a thing.”

“Love bombing is not the same as unconditional love.”

“If any of the following occur before six months have passed, slow down, take a step back, check your boundaries… If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.”

“Prospective recruits are showered with attention, which expands to affection and then often grows into a plausible simulation of love.”

“The display of affection toward new and potential converts (love bombing)… is also commonly interpreted as a sinister coercive technique.”

“The bottom line is, move quickly to meeting in person before expectations build or a love bomber blasts you off your feet.”

“Love is intermittent reinforcement with spouses and children alike. The child is love-bombed when the narcissist feels the child reflects their false self… the narcissistic parent blithely discards them.”