If you’re reading this, it might be because you suspect that your partner is emotionally abusing you. This is a very common problem in relationships, but it’s also one of the most difficult things to recognize.
Emotional abuse — sometimes called emotional manipulation or psychological abuse — often happens in such subtle ways that victims don’t even realize they’re being abused at first.
They may feel angry or frustrated at their partner’s behavior and try to pin that on a simple personality clash instead of realizing that something more serious is going on: an abusive relationship.
Imagine a relationship as a garden where emotions bloom, and trust is the fertile soil. Emotional abuse, however, acts as a pernicious weed, entwining its tendrils around the fragile roots of love, slowly choking the vibrancy of connection.
To navigate the labyrinth of emotional abuse requires a keen awareness of its myriad manifestations, a nuanced understanding that transcends the superficiality of everyday interactions.
In this exploration of the psyche, we delve into not just a mere enumeration of signs but a profound unraveling of the intricate threads that compose the fabric of emotional abuse within relationships.
A compendium of 51 signs emerges not as a mere list but as a mirror reflecting the distorted images that may mar the reflective surface of our interpersonal bonds. Each sign is a testament to the erosion of trust, a subtle fracture in the foundation upon which healthy relationships are built.
1. Constant Criticism And Belittling.
Criticism is one of the most common forms of emotional abuse, but it’s not always bad. In fact, healthy relationships need constructive criticism in order to grow and improve.
When someone criticizes you out of anger or frustration, it can feel extremely hurtful because they’re attacking who you are as a person instead of just pointing out what needs improvement in your actions or attitude (which would be more effective).
Even if the other person has good intentions and only wants to help, if they don’t offer their feedback in a kind way then their words will still come across as belittling — and that’s an important distinction!
2. Verbal Insults And Name-calling.
These are hurtful comments, insults, putdowns, and degrading remarks made by the abuser to the victim. They may range from “stupid” or “lazy” to racial slurs or homophobic name-calling.
The abuser may also use threats of physical or sexual violence against the victim in order to maintain control over him/her. Abusers often make fun of their victims’ appearance (e.g., saying they’re ugly), intelligence (e.g., calling them stupid), race/ethnicity/national origin, etc., thus causing them to feel worthless as human beings and powerless in their relationships with others.
3. Gaslighting: Manipulating Reality To Make You Doubt Yourself.
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that involves manipulating reality to make the victim doubt themselves. Gaslighting can be subtle or overt, but it’s always intentional and manipulative.
The term comes from an old movie called Gaslight in which a husband tries to convince his wife she’s going crazy by making small changes in their home and then telling her that she’s imagining things when she notices them.
In a relationship with someone who gaslights you, they’ll often say things like “You’re too sensitive” or “I didn’t do anything wrong” when you call them out on something they did wrong — or even worse: nothing at all! In reality, though, this statement actually means “I’m not sorry for what I did because you aren’t allowed to be upset about it.”
It also invalidates your feelings because if there’s no reason for you being upset then there must be something wrong with YOU instead (which is another form of gaslighting).
In order for this type of abuse tactic to work well though, one must first believe that their own perceptions are unreliable; which means we have been conditioned over time through various influences including media influences such as television shows/movies, etc.
Where characters often act irrationally while still coming across as reasonable people whom others listen too closely too often without question since they seem so believable despite being portrayed inaccurately most times…
4. Isolation From Friends And Family.
The abuser will try to isolate you, limit your time with them, or make you feel like they don’t love you.
It’s important that you know that if this is happening in your relationship, it is not normal behavior — and it’s not okay.
5. Controlling Behavior And Decisions.
If you feel like your partner is trying to control what you do, who you see and talk to, and how much money you spend, it could be a sign of emotional abuse. Controlling behavior can include:
- Checking your phone or email without permission
- Monitoring your whereabouts (tracking where the person goes)
- Controlling how much money they have access to and when they can use it (or not allow them any at all)
6. Monitoring Your Activities And Communications.
- Monitoring Your Activities. Emotional abusers may monitor your activities, including phone calls and texts, email, social media accounts, and even location. They might also check to see if you have a new boyfriend or girlfriend by looking through your phone or computer history.
- Checking Up On You Constantly And Making Sure You’re Not Talking To Anyone Else Who Might Be “Better” Than Them In Their Eyes (i.e., A Co-worker Or Friend).
Emotional abuse can take many forms — and one of them is trying to control who you speak with at all times so that they don’t feel threatened by the other people in your life who might make them jealous or insecure about the relationship itself being healthy enough for both parties involved.
7. Threats Of Violence Or Harm.
Emotional abuse can take many forms, but threats of violence or harm are one of the most common and serious. If a partner threatens to hurt you physically or verbally, even if they don’t follow through with their threats, this is a sign that they are emotionally abusive.
You might think that a physical threat would be obvious — like when your partner says something like “I’m going to break your jaw.” But what about non-physical threats?
Threats can also include things like:
Saying things like “If I don’t get my way then I’ll leave” or “You won’t see me again if you don’t do as I say.” These types of statements may seem harmless at first glance (especially if there’s no history of violence), but they still indicate an unhealthy relationship dynamic where one person has control over another person’s actions in order for peace in the home/family unit
8. Intimidation And Aggressive Gestures.
Emotional abuse is a form of mistreatment that makes you feel afraid. It can include threats and intimidation, including:
- Making you feel afraid by using aggressive gestures and postures
- Threatening to hurt you or someone else
- Threatening to hurt themselves if they don’t get their way
Emotional abusers may also try to control your behavior by threatening suicide or self-harm if you don’t do what they want.
9. Withholding Affection Or Love As Punishment.
Withholding affection as a punishment is a passive-aggressive way of controlling someone. It’s also a form of emotional abuse that can be very damaging to your relationship and your sense of self-worth.
When you don’t get the love from your partner that you crave, it will feel like they are withholding their love as punishment for something you did wrong or didn’t do right — even if that’s not the case at all!
This kind of behavior can be especially harmful if it happens regularly because it makes you feel guilty about things that aren’t really your fault (like being human).
And when guilt becomes part of your everyday life, it can lead to depression and anxiety in addition to other negative emotions like anger or resentment towards yourself or others around you who may not deserve these feelings at all!
10. Blaming You For Their Actions Or Feelings.
Emotional abusers often blame their victims for their actions and feelings. They may say that you’re causing them to be abusive, or they may even claim that it’s your fault if the abuser becomes angry with you.
This is an attempt to shift responsibility for their behavior onto the victim so that it doesn’t seem like they have control over themselves — and therefore cannot be held accountable for what they do or say in response.
It’s important to remember that abusers are responsible for their own feelings and actions — no matter how much they try to make themselves out as victims by blaming others!
11. Undermining Your Self-esteem And Confidence.
You may not recognize it, but undermining your self-esteem and confidence is a subtle form of abuse. A person who undermines you will constantly put you down and tell you that you’re wrong or inferior in some way.
They do this because they want to maintain power over the relationship — and they know that if they make you feel bad enough about yourself, then the only way for your relationship to work out will be if they give up some ground on their own terms (which usually means giving up nothing at all).
If someone does this to you, here are some things that could help:
Don’t take it personally — it’s not about how good or bad of a person you are; it’s about controlling behavior from another person trying not just control their own lives but also yours too!
So don’t let them win by letting them get away with hurting others just because we sometimes need validation from others even when those people aren’t worth listening too much less trusting 😉
12. Public Humiliation Or Embarrassment.
Public humiliation or embarrassment is a form of emotional abuse that can be very hard to recover from. It’s also one of the most common ways to publicly shame someone, which makes it all the more damaging.
When someone is being publicly humiliated, they’re being made to feel ashamed in front of other people as well as themselves — and this kind of treatment can cause severe mental health issues like anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
13. Making You Feel Guilty Or Responsible For Their Actions.
Emotional abuse is a type of abuse that can be difficult to spot, as it may not have physical signs like bruises or cuts. Emotional abusers use words and actions to make you feel bad about yourself and your actions, which can have long-lasting effects on your self-esteem.
Emotional abusers often make their victims feel guilty or responsible for the abuser’s actions by saying things like: “You made me angry.”
They also may try to make their victims feel responsible for their happiness by saying things like: “If only you’d done this differently, then I would have been happy.”
This form of emotional abuse can cause self-blame in victims who begin questioning themselves as well as who they are as people — and how they should act around others so as not to cause any more pain or unhappiness for anyone else (even though these feelings aren’t rational).
14. Emotional Blackmail And Manipulation.
When someone emotionally blackmailed you, they used your feelings against you to get what they wanted. They might have said things like “If you really loved me, then…” or “If I don’t get a raise, then I’m going to leave this relationship.”
They may have even used threats: “If my boss finds out what happened here today, I’ll lose my job!” Emotional blackmail can be subtle or overt — but either way, it’s destructive because it makes people feel like their emotions are being manipulated by another person.
Emotional manipulation is similar to emotional blackmail in that both involve using someone else’s feelings against them in order to get what one wants (but not always).
Emotional manipulators are usually more subtle than those who engage in outright emotional blackmail; however, sometimes the two overlap so much that it can be difficult to tell them apart at first glance.
An example of emotional manipulation might look something like this: Your partner says something like “You know how much I love spending time with our kids…and yet whenever we go somewhere as a family everyone ignores me while they all talk amongst themselves.” This would likely make most people feel guilty and think twice before going out again!
15. Playing Mind Games And Psychological Manipulation.
- Playing mind games and psychological manipulation are forms of emotional abuse.
- Mind games are a way for abusers to manipulate your emotions by making you feel like you’re crazy, putting you on edge, or playing with your head.
- Psychological manipulation is when someone tries to control you by using your emotions against you. They may do this in an obvious way (like telling lies) or more subtly (by saying things like “If I were in your shoes…). The best way to protect yourself from psychological manipulation is awareness: recognizing that it’s happening, knowing what signs indicate that it’s happening, and being able to recognize how the abuser uses this tactic so that they can’t get away with it anymore!
16. Ignoring Your Needs And Feelings.
You may feel like your partner is ignoring your needs, or not listening to you. They might not acknowledge your feelings, and they won’t respond to them either.
In addition to this, their lack of consideration for what matters most to you can lead to an overall sense of neglect in the relationship — and it will hurt even more because it’s so subtle that it’s easy for others (including family members) not realize what’s going on behind closed doors.
17. Refusing To Communicate Or Give You The Silent Treatment.
The silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse and passive-aggressive behavior, used by abusers as a way to punish their victims for perceived infractions or mistakes.
It’s also a way for them to control you — by making you feel like you’ve done something wrong and that if you don’t apologize, they’ll never speak with you again.
This type of manipulation can be especially harmful because it leaves the victim feeling confused, guilty, and isolated from others who may have witnessed what happened in the first place (if someone saw your partner give you “the look”).
18. Jealousy And Possessiveness.
Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. If your partner gets jealous when you talk to other people, or if they tend to get angry when they see you talking to someone else, then this could be an indication that they’re insecure in their relationship with you.
Insecurity can be caused by feeling like their partner doesn’t love them enough and therefore needs constant reassurance that everything will work out for them.
Jealousy can also be seen as a sign of love because it shows how much our partners care about us — they want us all to themselves! However, jealousy becomes problematic when it becomes possessive behavior such as controlling what we do and who we spend time with (and vice versa).
If a partner feels entitled to another person’s life because he/she thinks he/she owns him/her completely then this indicates emotional abuse rather than love or caring behavior.
19. Using Your Vulnerabilities Against You.
A vulnerability is a weakness, something that you’re afraid of or uncomfortable with. It can be anything from an illness to an addiction; from a mental disorder to a physical disability.
Vulnerabilities are often used against us by those who wish us harm — and this includes abusers. The abuser knows what your triggers are and will use them against you in order to get what they want, whether it’s money or control over your life.
For example: if their partner has a history of depression, then the abuser may use this knowledge by deliberately triggering episodes where they know their partner will be at their most vulnerable.
20. Unpredictable Mood Swings.
Emotional abuse is often characterized by unpredictable mood swings. These mood swings are not the same as normal fluctuations in mood, and they’re not just an occasional thing.
Rather, they’re typically extreme and erratic — and they can happen at any time of day or night.
The abuser’s ability to control their own emotions is limited by their own lack of self-awareness and insight, so when they feel like they’re losing control over their response to you (or even just something that happens), it triggers an angry outburst that may seem completely disproportionate to whatever it was that triggered the outburst in the first place.
21. Excessive Sarcasm And Mockery.
Sarcasm is a form of emotional abuse that can be used to control, manipulate, and belittle a person. You may have experienced sarcasm if your partner has said something like “Oh, good for you!” or “I’m so proud of you!” when you’ve done something they don’t agree with.
Sarcasm can also take the form of mocking laughter or simply making fun of someone in a hurtful way — it’s often used as an attempt at humor but ends up causing more harm than good because it makes the other person feel bad about themselves.
22. Trivializing Your Concerns Or Emotions.
This is a common tactic used by abusers to make their victims feel like their concerns and emotions are not valid. The abuser will tell the victim that their feelings are irrational or stupid, and therefore should not be taken seriously.
This can also include making fun of the victim for being upset about something, which makes them feel even more isolated from others who might be able to support them through this difficult time in their life.
23. Mocking Your Interests Or Hobbies.
- Your partner makes fun of your interests and hobbies.
- He or she may mock the way you spend time with friends or family members, or even try to get you to give up on a passion that’s important to you.
- This sort of behavior can be very damaging in a relationship because it makes the other person feel like their needs aren’t important enough for their partner to respect them as an individual — and that’s not okay!
24. Invasion Of Privacy.
They may read your emails, texts, and social media posts. They may check your phone or computer. They may check your bank account. They may check your diary, mail, and room (or wherever else they think they can find information).
If you have access to a car, they might try to get into it by breaking in or using another method such as asking for the keys when you’re not looking — then taking them away from you so that you can’t leave without them!
25. Belittling Your Accomplishments.
You may be the most talented, intelligent, and capable person in your family. But if you are a woman, your accomplishments are rarely acknowledged by your abuser. Instead, he will find ways to belittle them or make them seem insignificant.
- He might tell others that “it was easy for her” or that “she didn’t really earn it,” making sure everyone knows how much better he is than you at everything — especially your job or career field.
- He might point out all of the ways in which things could have gone wrong with whatever success you’ve had recently as if those failures would have been preferable to whatever success did happen (and imply that they were inevitable).
- This way he can simultaneously take credit for any good outcomes while still maintaining control over every aspect of your life — including what successes belong to him and which ones don’t!
26. Denying Affection Or Sex As A Form Of Control.
- Denying affection and sex as a form of control is one of the most common ways emotional abusers use to manipulate their partners.
- This isn’t just about sex, but any form of affection or intimacy you may share with your partner. The abuser may use this as a way to make you feel guilty or punish you for something they are angry about in order to gain power over your emotions and behavior.
- Abusers who deny physical affection will often use other methods like gaslighting (telling someone they’re crazy) or blame-shifting (blaming others for their own actions).
27. Threatening To Leave Or Abandon You.
One of the most damaging ways an abuser can exert control over you is by threatening to leave or abandon you. This could be a physical threat, such as “I’ll leave if you don’t stop arguing with me,” or it could be more subtle, like “If we can’t have sex tonight then I might as well go back home.”
The latter example may seem less serious than the former, but both serve the same purpose: making your partner feel like they have all of the power in the relationship and making sure that their needs are met before yours.
Emotional abusers often use this tactic because it works so well; being abandoned by someone who means so much to us is devastating on every level–it makes us feel unloved and unwanted by our partner; like we’re not good enough; even ashamed that we couldn’t do enough to keep them around (even though there was nothing WRONG with us).
This kind of manipulation keeps us under their thumb because we’re afraid not only that our loved ones will leave us but also what will happen when they do!
28. Isolating You From Support Systems.
Abusers may isolate you from your friends, family, and other support systems in order to make it more difficult for you to leave them.
They will often tell others about how “crazy” or “unstable” you are, which can lead people who care about you to believe that something is wrong with you and stay away from the relationship.
Abusers also use isolation as punishment for perceived disobedience or failure by their partner; this includes not living up to their expectations of how a good girlfriend/boyfriend should behave (e.g., being too emotional).
The abuser may threaten to cut off contact with the victim if they don’t comply with these demands–or even if they do comply!
29. Criticizing Your Appearance Or Body.
- Criticism about your appearance or body is a form of emotional abuse. It can be hard to know if you are being abused, but if this is happening to you, it’s important to get help.*
- If someone puts down your appearance or body in any way, they are probably trying to make themselves feel better by putting others down. This behavior will not stop until they realize their own self-worth and learn that others have value too!
30. Making You Feel Like You’re Walking On Eggshells.
If you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, it could be because your abuser wants to control how much freedom you have in the relationship. They may also be trying to make sure that they don’t do anything that might upset or anger their partner–even if those actions are normal for most people.
If this is the case, there are a few things that will help:
- Set boundaries with them and stick to them! If they don’t respect your wishes, then leave their company immediately. Don’t let them guilt trip or manipulate into staying longer than necessary just so they can continue hurting/scaring/intimidating someone else who doesn’t deserve such treatment from anyone (especially someone who supposedly loves them).
- Learn how to set boundaries without being rude about it; otherwise, people won’t take us seriously when we say “no.” For example: if someone asks us something personal like where were born or what our parent’s names were instead of giving them an answer right away try saying something like “I’d rather not talk about that right now” instead of saying nothing at all which then gives off mixed signals…or worse yet leads into another conversation altogether!
31. Shifting Blame Onto You For Their Problems.
This is a way of manipulating and controlling you, as well as making you feel bad about yourself. It’s also an attempt to make yourself feel guilty so that they can get what they want from you without having to do anything themselves.
Shifting blame is a form of emotional abuse because it makes the victim question themselves rather than questioning their abuser’s behavior or motives; this leads them to believe that there must be something wrong with them instead of understanding that there are things wrong with others (like abusers).
32. Manipulating Your Finances.
Manipulating your finances can be one of the most devastating forms of emotional abuse. It’s a way for a controller to control you and make sure that they have power over you.
Signs that you’re being financially manipulated include:
- Withholding money from your paycheck or refusing to give it to you at all.
- Making you pay for everything, including things that they should be paying for themselves (like groceries).
- Spending your money without asking or telling you first (or stealing it).
- Making up excuses why they can’t afford certain things, despite earning enough income each month.
This is especially common in relationships where one partner earns significantly more than another–but even if both partners earn equal amounts, there may still be discrepancies between their spending habits due to different values regarding what’s important enough to spend money on (e.g., one partner might see vacations as an unnecessary expense while another considers them an important part of life).
If this happens often enough over time without any changes being made about these differing opinions, then it could signal financial manipulation as well!
33. Undermining Your Parenting Decisions.
The abuser may try to undermine your parenting decisions by making subtle comments about them. They may also try to undermine your authority with the children, for example, by making excuses for their behavior.
The abuser may use underhanded tactics like these:
- “You’re not being strict enough with them.”
- “Your kid is too spoiled.”
- “Your child needs more discipline.”
34. Ignoring Your Boundaries And Consent.
In a relationship, you have the right to say “no” to any request. This includes sex, hugs, or anything else. If your partner ignores your boundaries and consent, then they are not respecting your choices as an individual.
Couples should also agree on what they want from each other before having sex–and even before hugging.
It may sound silly at first glance but by talking about it beforehand and making sure everyone is on board with their actions can help avoid any confusion later down the road when someone feels like they were taken advantage of because they didn’t know what was going on until after the fact (which is never okay).
35. Playing The Victim To Gain Sympathy.
This is one of the most common tactics used by people who are emotionally abusive. They will put themselves down, make you feel sorry for them, and tell you how they were mistreated in their lives.
They may even tell you that they were raped or molested as a child, which can cause feelings of guilt if you don’t believe them.
The goal of this behavior is to gain sympathy from others so that they feel sorry for them and want to give them something (like money).
It’s also used as a way for abusers to get power over others by making them feel obligated or indebted towards them because of what happened in their pasts.
36. Using Your Past Against You.
An emotional abuser will use your past against you in order to make you feel guilty and like there’s no choice but to stay in the relationship.
They might say things like: “You were just like this with your last boyfriend!” or “I can’t believe I’m still here after all that happened.”
An abuser may also bring up old wounds from childhood, pointing out how they’re similar to those of their partner. For example, if you grew up with a parent who was abusive or neglectful and now have trust issues as an adult, an abuser could say something like: “See? You don’t trust me because of what happened when we were kids.”
37. Using Your Loved Ones To Manipulate You.
Another sign of emotional abuse is when your partner uses your children or other family members to manipulate you. This can take many forms, including:
- Threatening to hurt or alienate their relationship with their child(ren) if they don’t get what they want from you
- Using the child(ren)’s birthdays and holidays against them as an excuse for why the abuser won’t spend time with them
- Telling lies about the victim in front of their family members
38. Making You Doubt Your Own Reality.
Emotional abusers often make their victims feel crazy like they are the ones who are wrong and not them. They will do this by telling them that they are overreacting or making a big deal out of nothing, when in fact it is their abuser who is doing the abusing!
This can be very confusing for people who are in this type of relationship as well as for friends and family members who witness it happening from the outside looking in because it seems so obvious what’s happening–but if you’re being emotionally abused, you’ll probably find yourself doubting yourself more than once before realizing how deep-rooted the problem really is.
39. Minimizing The Abuse Or Making Excuses.
It can be done intentionally or unintentionally, and it’s important to understand that you are not at fault for minimizing.
If someone you love is minimizing your feelings and experiences, it is okay to talk with them about how their behavior makes you feel.
You should also seek help from an outside source if they refuse to listen to what they’re doing–this may be an indication of deeper issues within your relationship and/or their mental health
40. Controlling Your Access To Resources.
- Controlling the finances. An abuser may control the finances, making it difficult for you to leave. For example, they might make you feel like you can’t afford to leave or get a job because of their controlling behavior.
- Controlling access to transportation. The abuser may also control any cars and other modes of transportation that are available in your household, making it impossible for you to escape without their permission or help (if they allow it). This includes making sure there is no vehicle available when needed; sabotaging keys; removing gas from tanks; locking doors so no one else can enter/exit in an emergency situation; taking away keys while at work so they can’t be used by anyone else (including law enforcement)
41. Isolating You From Your Children Or Family.
If you are being abused by a family member, it’s important to remove yourself from the situation. You can do this by moving out of the house and into a shelter or other safe place.
If you’re unable to leave, try talking with someone about what is happening in your home. They may be able to help you figure out how best to protect yourself and your children from harm.
If your partner is isolating you from friends and family members who care about you, talk about this issue with them as well as any other signs of emotional abuse that apply in your relationship (such as controlling behavior or intimidation).
42. Threatening To Harm Themselves If You Leave.
This is a cruel form of emotional abuse. It’s a way for the abuser to keep you in the relationship and make you feel guilty if you try to leave because they will threaten to harm themselves if you do.
If your partner has made these threats, it’s very important that you get help immediately. If they are serious about self-harm, call 911 or go straight to an emergency room yourself (if possible).
43. Making You Feel Responsible For Their Happiness.
The abuser will make you feel responsible for their happiness. They’ll tell you that if you don’t do what they want, or act in a way that pleases them, it’s because of your failure as a partner and friend.
As with all the other signs of emotional abuse, this can be difficult to identify at first because it often comes across as genuine concern: “If only I could make things better!”
But in fact, it’s just another way that abusers try to control their victims–by making them feel like they have failed somehow by being unable to meet some impossible standard set by their partner.
This sets up an unhealthy dynamic where one person feels like they are constantly failing while the other person gets angry at them over those failures (which then causes more failures).
It also sets up an unbalanced relationship where one person feels entitled or even obligated toward another person based on past behavior rather than any current reality; this is how many abusers justify treating others poorly despite there being nothing wrong with those individuals except for maybe not doing exactly what was asked/expected every single time without fail!
44. Withholding Emotional Support.
It can be a sign of emotional manipulation, or even gaslighting. Emotional blackmail is when someone uses their feelings as leverage to get what they want from another person.
If your partner constantly threatens to leave you if you don’t do what they want, that’s emotional blackmail. Similarly, if your partner withholds affection until after you’ve done something they ask (like clean the house), then this could also be considered emotional manipulation and/or blackmailing behavior in some cases–especially if it happens frequently enough that you feel like there’s no way out but doing whatever it takes for them not to walk out on the relationship!
45. Ridiculing Your Cultural Or Religious Beliefs.
It’s important to understand the culture and religion of your partner. If they are different from yours, it may be difficult to understand them. They might have a different perspective on things and you can’t judge them because of this.
There are many people who have been in abusive relationships before that were brought up with different beliefs than what their partner had or vice versa.
For example, one person could have come from a Christian family while another grew up Muslim; they both would’ve been taught different things when they were younger which could affect how they think today as adults if they stay together long enough for these beliefs to come out during arguments between each other (which happens more often than not).
46. Forcing You To Do Things Against Your Will.
For example, if your partner makes you go somewhere or do something that you don’t want to go or do and then yells at you for not wanting to go there/do it, this is a sign of emotional abuse. Some examples include:
- Making plans without consulting with you first.
- Pushing their opinions on the way things should be done in the relationship–without giving any room for compromise or discussion on your part (e.g., “I’m sick of arguing about this! Just agree with me already.”)
47. Belittling Your Emotions Or Needs.
Emotional abuse can be a form of control, as the abuser is trying to get their way and make you feel bad about yourself. This is because they want power over you, and they want to use emotional abuse as a way of getting it. It’s not always easy to recognize emotional abuse, because it doesn’t look like physical violence or yelling. Emotional abusers may:
- Use condescending language when talking with you (e.g., “I’m just trying to help!”)
- Make fun of your ideas or opinions in front of others
- Give unsolicited advice about how you should manage your life
48. Consistently Disregarding Your Opinions.
If your abuser constantly disregards your opinions, then it’s a sign of emotional abuse. The abuser may not listen to you or care about what you have to say.
They may even invalidate or criticize your opinions, which can make it difficult for you to form one in the first place.
This can be especially damaging when it comes to making decisions as a couple because this person is supposed to have your best interests at heart; however, if they consistently disregard them without any regard for how much their actions affect others around them–including themselves–then there could be serious problems brewing behind closed doors (or under covers).
49. Discouraging Or Sabotaging Your Goals.
If your partner is trying to discourage or sabotage your goals, that’s another sign that you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship. This can be done in a number of ways:
- By making you feel like you can’t achieve them (e.g., “You’ve never been good at anything,” “It’s not worth trying,” etc.)
- By discouraging others from supporting your goals (e.g., telling them they shouldn’t help out with something because they don’t want it as much as their partner does)
50. Monitoring Your Online Activities.
They may monitor your computer and phone, social media accounts, email accounts, and internet usage. They might also use location-tracking apps to track where you are going or have been.
Monitoring is often done without your knowledge or permission so it’s difficult for you to know whether or not someone is spying on what you’re doing online.
If you suspect that someone has been monitoring your online activity without permission:
Change all passwords on all devices (computer/phone/etc.) immediately! Do not give anyone else access to these devices unless absolutely necessary–it could put them at risk too!
51. They Disrespect You As A Person
Disrespecting someone as a person is a common tactic used in emotional abuse. Here are some ways an individual might emotionally abuse their partner by disrespecting them:
Name-Calling and Insults:
Using derogatory names or insults to belittle the partner.
Employing hurtful language that attacks the person’s character.
Mocking and Ridicule:
Making fun of the partner’s ideas, beliefs, or interests.
Ridiculing them in front of others to embarrass and humiliate them.
Ignoring or Dismissing Feelings:
Disregarding the partner’s emotions and feelings.
Minimizing their concerns and making them feel insignificant.
Criticizing or ridiculing the partner in public.
Undermining their social standing or reputation intentionally.
Blaming the partner for everything that goes wrong.
Shifting responsibility for problems onto the partner unfairly.
Emotional abuse is a serious issue that can have lasting effects on the victim. The signs of emotional abuse can be difficult to spot, especially if the abuser is someone close to you like a partner or family member.
If you think that someone may be suffering from this type of abuse, there are ways to help them get out and begin healing from the trauma they’ve experienced.