You’re probably here because something doesn’t add up, and you’re quietly wondering whether narcissistic abuse recovery is the thing you’ve been circling for months. On paper, nothing’s “that bad.” There were no broken bones, no single moment you can point to. And yet you’re exhausted in a way sleep doesn’t fix. You rehearse conversations before you have them. You apologize for things you didn’t do. You’ve started saving screenshots, not because you’re paranoid, but because your own memory keeps getting overwritten by someone else’s version of events.
That feeling has a name. You don’t need proof to talk it through, and you don’t need to commit to anything to start. The first step is a free consultation: fifteen minutes, no cost, no pressure. This page explains exactly what that call is, what we’ll cover, and what happens if you decide to keep going.
I’m Som Dutt, a certified coach specializing in covert narcissism, NPD, and narcissistic abuse recovery, with 7+ years of experience guiding 1,400+ trauma and abuse survivors. I work one-on-one, online, with people coming out of relationships with covert narcissists: partners, parents, siblings, in-laws, and bosses.
What the free consultation actually is
The free consultation is a 15-minute call where we find out whether I’m the right person to help you. Nothing more, nothing you pay for. You tell me what’s been happening, I tell you honestly whether and how I can help, and you ask me anything you want. There’s no card required, no obligation, and no sales script waiting at the end.
I keep it short on purpose. You shouldn’t have to spend money to find out if someone understands your situation, and you shouldn’t sit through an hour with a stranger to get a read on whether you trust them. Fifteen minutes is enough to feel both of those things. If we’re a fit, we’ll talk about next steps. If we’re not, I’ll say so and, where I can, point you somewhere better.
What we’ll talk about on the call
We’ll cover three things: what’s happening to you, what you want to be different, and how I’d work with you on it. You don’t need to arrive organized or articulate; most people don’t. Coming with the mess exactly as it is works fine.
You might describe the pattern without knowing its name yet: the gaslighting that makes you doubt your own memory, the love bombing that pulled you in, the slow idealize-devalue-discard cycle, the hoovering texts that arrive the moment you go quiet, the flying monkeys relaying messages, the smear campaign that started the day you set a boundary. You don’t have to use any of those words. That’s my job. Yours is just to tell me what your life feels like.
Then I’ll ask what you’re hoping for. Sometimes it’s a clean exit. Sometimes it’s surviving a co-parenting arrangement you can’t escape. Sometimes it’s just to stop feeling crazy. Whatever it is, we’ll name it, and I’ll tell you plainly whether coaching can get you there and roughly what that would look like. You’ll leave the call with more clarity than you came in with, even if you never book another minute with me.
Why I start with a free call instead of a sales pitch
I start free because trust is the whole foundation of this work, and you can’t build it from a checkout page. People recovering from narcissistic abuse have usually been sold a version of reality that wasn’t true. The last thing you need is another person performing warmth to close a deal.
So the consultation isn’t a disguised pitch. I’m not going to pressure you, create false urgency, or imply you’ll fall apart without me. If anything, I’ll be the one telling you to slow down if I think you’re not ready, or to see a licensed therapist alongside coaching, or instead of it. My job on that call is to be honest with you, including when honesty costs me a client.
What narcissistic abuse recovery actually involves
Narcissistic abuse recovery is the process of naming what happened, stopping the ongoing harm, and rebuilding the parts of you the relationship eroded. It isn’t about diagnosing the other person; it’s about getting you back. My coaching follows a clear arc so you always know where you are.
Recognize
We name the pattern precisely: covert or overt, which tactics, which stage of the cycle. Most people feel lighter the moment confusion turns into a clear picture, because uncertainty is heavier than hard truth.
Reality-anchor
We rebuild trust in your own perception. Years of gaslighting and DARVO (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender) teach you to distrust yourself. We undo that, and the cognitive dissonance starts to settle.
Disengage
We work the practical exit: no contact or grey rock, a communication plan, and a safety and logistics plan if you’re leaving. If you can’t leave yet, we build a containment plan instead. Real steps, in order.
Reconstruct and reauthor
With the bleeding stopped, we rebuild boundaries that hold and a nervous system that isn’t always braced, then change the story you tell about yourself, from “what’s wrong with me” to “here’s what happened, and here’s who I am now.”
Who I help
I work with people recovering from covert manipulation across every relationship type, and the free consultation is where we figure out which of these fits your situation.
- No contact and exit strategy: building the exit, the hoover-resistance scripts, and the week-one plan for when the urge to break it hits.
- Post-separation abuse: the campaign that continues after you leave, with its messages, its manipulation through other people, and the grind designed to pull you back.
- Co-parenting with a narcissist: grey rock, communication that can’t be twisted, and protecting your kids without using them as messengers.
- Workplace and coworker narcissism: when the narcissist signs your paycheck or sits two desks away.
- Narcissistic parents and mothers-in-law: the family systems where you were cast as the scapegoat, and the in-law dynamics that strain a marriage.
- Female narcissist survivors: abuse by a woman, which is real and chronically disbelieved. I take it seriously, with no minimizing.
- Covert narcissist recognition: for when you’re not even sure yet, and need to read the pattern clearly enough to decide what to do.
What happens after the consultation, and what it costs
If we decide to work together, you choose how much support you want from my narcissistic abuse recovery coaching, from one session to a six-month container. I keep pricing public and affordable on purpose, because I work online and global and don’t carry the overhead that forces clinic-based coaches to charge $250–$400 a session.
| Option | Format | Price |
|---|---|---|
| Free Consultation | 15 minutes | Free |
| Single Session | 50 minutes | $49 |
| Emergency Session | 50 minutes, same/next-day | $69 |
| Pattern Break | 4 × 50-minute sessions | $179 |
| Reclaim Program | 12 weekly sessions + email | $499 |
| 6-Month Deep Recovery | ~6 months + email | $949 |
| Email Coaching | 4 weeks, asynchronous | $99 |
Most people start with a single session or the four-session Pattern Break. You’re never pushed toward the biggest package. On the consultation, I’ll tell you the smallest thing that would actually help, not the most expensive.
Is the free consultation right for you?
It’s right for you if you suspect covert narcissistic abuse and want to talk to someone who understands it without a forty-minute explanation. It works whether you’re still in the relationship, planning your exit, freshly out, or years out and still untangling. You don’t need certainty that “it counts.” Uncertainty is the most common reason people book.
It’s not the right starting point in a few cases, and I’ll be straight about them:
- If you’re in immediate physical danger, you need emergency services and a domestic-violence advocate first, not a coaching call.
- If you’re in acute crisis or need clinical treatment for a diagnosed condition, a licensed therapist comes first; coaching can support that work but doesn’t replace it.
- If you only want someone to confirm the other person is a monster, I’m probably not your coach. Recovery means getting your power back, which sometimes means looking at your own patterns too.
How to book your free consultation
Booking takes about a minute. You pick a time, answer two or three short questions so I’m not walking in blind, and we talk.
- Choose a time that works across our time zones (I coach worldwide, so we’ll find one).
- Answer a couple of quick questions when you book, so the 15 minutes go to you, not to background.
- We meet by video or audio, your choice if you’d rather not be on camera.
- You decide. No follow-up pressure. If you want to go further, we’ll set it up; if not, the clarity is yours to keep.
A pattern you might recognize
This isn’t one client. It’s a composite, with details removed, because the shape repeats so often it’s almost predictable.
He booked the free call from his car, on a lunch break, certain he was wasting my time. His wife had never raised her voice. To everyone outside the house she was warm and generous; inside it, he’d spent years being quietly corrected, managed, and made to feel ungrateful. He kept saying “it’s probably nothing.” Fifteen minutes in, I named the covert pattern he’d been living, and he went quiet: the specific quiet of someone hearing their own life described out loud for the first time.
He didn’t sign up that day. He took two weeks, then started with a single session, then a Pattern Break. The consultation didn’t change his marriage. It changed whether he believed himself, and that’s where everything else started.
If it helps to hear it from people who’ve already walked this, read a few real client testimonials before you decide whether to book.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is the consultation really free?
Yes, genuinely free, 15 minutes, no card and no obligation. It exists so you can find out whether I’m the right fit before you spend anything. If I’m not the right person, I’ll tell you and point you somewhere better where I can.
Will you try to sell me something on the call?
No. There’s no pitch, no urgency, no scripted close. I’ll tell you the smallest thing that would actually help, even when that’s “see a therapist first” or “you may not need me yet.” You decide on your own time, with no follow-up pressure.
What if I’m not even sure it’s narcissistic abuse?
That uncertainty is the most common reason people book, because covert abuse is engineered to keep you doubting. You don’t need a diagnosis or proof. We’ll look at the pattern together, honestly, and you’ll leave with more clarity than you came in with, whatever we conclude.
Is coaching the same as therapy?
No. Therapy is clinical treatment from a licensed professional, often working through your past. Coaching is practical, present-focused support for the decisions and patterns in front of you. I’m a coach, not a therapist, and I don’t diagnose or treat conditions. Many clients do both, and they pair well.
Do you work with people outside your country?
Yes. I coach worldwide, entirely online, and we’ll find a time that works across our zones. If scheduling live calls is genuinely impossible for your situation, Email Coaching exists for exactly that.
How should I prepare for the consultation?
You don’t need to prepare much. If it helps, jot down the two or three things weighing on you most and any questions you have for me. Arriving with the mess exactly as it is works completely fine.
What happens if we decide to work together?
You choose the option that fits: a single session, the four-session Pattern Break, the 12-week Reclaim Program, or the 6-Month Deep Recovery. You’ll get a short intake so our first paid session goes straight to your situation. There’s no long-term lock-in; you move at your pace.
Book your free consultation
The first step in narcissistic abuse recovery isn’t leaving, forgiving, or “moving on.” It’s naming the pattern out loud, with someone who already knows it, so you stop carrying the weight of proving it alone.
If any of this sounded like your life, book your free 15-minute consultation. No cost, no pressure, no script. Just a conversation to see whether I can help and what the next honest step looks like.
A note on scope and safety: coaching is supportive guidance, not therapy, medical care, legal advice, or crisis services, and I’m a coach rather than a licensed clinician. If you’re in immediate danger or having thoughts of harming yourself, please contact your local emergency number or a domestic-violence or crisis helpline right now. That help exists, and you deserve it.